The Masochist Structure—The Endurer
Early Wound: If you developed the masochist structure, you most likely had a parent, who was overly controlling, protective, humiliating, or punishing—especially around food intake and potty training. This thwarted your self-expression and creativity. The only recourse your child self had against this overt suppression was to inwardly say, “No, I won’t,” while outwardly conforming. This sets up a life-long pattern of saying no—even to things your adult self wants.
Behavioral and Psychological Characteristics
- Self-defeating behaviors
- Blaming and complaining
- Feeling stuck
- Victim mentality
- Built-up anger
- Reject any type of authority including schedules or any type of “should.”
Gifts: large caring heart, creative, fun-loving, good sense of humor, persistent, hard working
Healing Exercises: Creativity
- Since your self-expression was squashed as a child, it’s now important to unleash your creativity through journaling, art, music, and dance to name a few.
See Chapter 4 of Hidden Treasure — The Book to learn about:
- Other Causes
- Body Type
- Effect on Relationships
- Other Behaviors with cartoons
- Many more healing exercises
- Life stories illustrating the concepts
